MY REPLY TO WECHIE

The apostle Paul’s passionate appeal to the church in Rome to offer themselves as living sacrifices to God was premised on the mercy and loving kindness of God. This devotion and submission go the will and authority of the Father, like you rightly pointed out, is a response to His love for us.
ROMANS 12:1.
Submission, indeed, is a form and expression of love. It is one of the faces that a woman’s love for her husband wears or manifests.
Jesus was very clear when He showed us that loving Him means obedience, which means submitting to His authority. JOHN 14:15.
The apostle Paul, in speaking of the union between a husband and wife, describes it as a picture of the union between Christ and the church, where Christ is the head, and the church is the bride. EPHESIANS 5:23.
He also tells us that the submission of a woman to her husband should be in the way that the church submits to Christ, and we have seen earlier from ROMANS 12:1, that the submission of the church to Christ is not a robotic submission or obedience as you put it, but one that is born of love for Christ, which is a response to His love.
1 JOHN 4:19.
Indeed, all of these shows that the apostle Paul was not placing a no-love restriction on the woman towards her husband by the instruction to submit to him.
Where there is love (agape), there will be loving and trusting submission.